​How many times have you heard that before?  Begin again.  These are precious words for me, because it is so darn easy to get caught up in our heads about things.  Especially at the beginning of a New Year, there are seemingly countless New Year's plans and resolutions.  You would think that everyone in my inbox has stepped up into the light, and proclaimed their plan.

Not me, this year.  I am realizing that what I have been spending my interior life thinking about, is actually letting go. Letting some expectation of myself go.   Letting some people go, who I clearly cannot help, in particular a family member who is in deep pain right now, and another one who has purposely removed herself from our extended family.  These two people have occupied way too much of my interior head space in 2017, and now that it's a new year, I think I can let them go.  (They will come back of their own accord, if it is in their best interest to do so and if they want my support.  Letting them go represents an understanding in me that recognizes simply that I can't bring them to a place they cannot come to yet).

I am also letting go of some previously held ideas of what "success" means.  I want to conduct my business in a deeper way, a way that gives of the resources I have in a more full, playful, rich way.  And I am letting go of structures that I thought were supportive of myself and my business.  Structures that have me in "learning" or "seeking" mode instead of teaching/speaking mode.

This last thought came from reading a note from a facebook friend, who wanted me to buy a product from someone she called her new "guru" for 2018.  I sat there and asked myself why I would want to pursue yet another "guru" at this time.  And you know what?  This represents a shift in my being.  No more "bright shiny objects" at least for now.  I feel that I am integrating the teachings of F.M.Alexander even more in my life, by listening within, by noticing what comes up, and working with it.  Coming present, standing present, breathing present, and beginning again from right here.  

In other words, things are freeing themselves from my habit of creating self-imposed criteria, where I have in the past felt that I don't know enough yet, so have to buy that one more product, or take that one more class before I am "ready".  Ready for what?  You see, the whole thing represents the fallacy of arrival.  We feel that we have arrived only when we are 100% sure that we know everything.  Crazy, right?

I'm talking about the "seeker" mode.  Seeker mode keeps us ever hungry for more.  It keeps us from feeling complete.  Seeker mode is similar to "perfection" mode, by the way.  Perfection mode is an attitude of not enough-ness, where BECAUSE it isn't quite perfect, we can't share our knowledge.  Otherwise...what?  Otherwise we will be judged and then REJECTED.  

The sense of rejection is deep, and very real for people.  Especially women in business who need to be seen and visible in their businesses. This is the number one place where they get stuck.  It will show up in the form of procrastinating making that important phone call, or sharing their knowledge.  It is a question of worthiness. then it shows up as not taking a stand for themselves, not asking for the sale, or participating fully.

The Alexander Technique is a tool to come present to ourselves in the present moment, and just be.  Not to judge, or to need a "guru" or try to be perfect.  Just to come present and begin again right here, right now.  The tool is based on a discovery...that when we leave ourselves alone, the right thing does itself.  There is quite literally nothing to do.

So, let's imagine ourselves in a networking meeting.  Nothing to "do" right?  Just being and breathing.  And listening, and responding.  Connecting.  Feel good?  It should!

So this is what I am suggesting...let's be our own "gurus" starting today.  Start here in this place and awaken to what is right here.  What are you noticing?  Are you breathing? How do you feel?  Tired?  Free?  Tense?  OK!  Now feel your feet on the ground, make one little decision right now about what you want.  And let it take you somewhere...

Hopefully into the freest, most creative opening that you have felt in a long time.  A New Year just to be more yourself, more connected, more free.

Yipee! 

I had the strangest beginning of the New Year.  I wanted to stay in bed and pull the covers over my head!  Not on the first day; I was full of enthusiasm and play, enjoyed the fireworks that I can literally see on my roof deck in Philadelphia, I had made my traditional chocolate mousse and had the bottle of champagne cooling...all was fine to start.  I am talking about the next few days when I should have been creating my 90 day action plan and getting started on the creative part of  my business.

Those of you who know me will agree that this is not a typical response to change for me.  I am usually the energizer bunny with more than enough ideas to keep my passions in motion, and if anything, I am usually going a thousand miles an hour with five plates all in the air at the same time.

But this week was different; I didn't feel like doing anything! I decided to listen to my body and process what was going on with me.

So the first intuitive answer I got was that I am not aligned with my projects and ventures at the moment.  There is something more on the interior that is going on.  In the energy management tools I offer all of my coaching clients, I call this the inner energy management or mindset work, which helps to clear what is in the way to the full expression and manifestation of our work in the world.  So wanting to stay asleep is a big clue!!

Here is what I learned about my inner processes this week:

• Sometimes when there is an energy drain, there is a hidden psychological issue that has not bubbled up to the surface yet.  When I asked my inner guidance what that could be, the obvious answer presented itself...my brother is going in for serious heart surgery on Wednesday.  I am worried about him.
• There is a drive we all have that includes a list of "shoulds".  The New Year is replete with resolutions, and I am definitely feeling the pressure of the collective American obsession with changing ourselves, and improving ourselves at this time of year!  Maybe I don't have to be all that productive just now.
• Not feeling aligned with a particular project is fine.  There are often a number of pieces to put into place in the creation of a new project or idea, and I am right in the middle of mine.  I am at the end of editing my book, "Step Up and SHINE; power and presence in action", have already found a great graphic artist to make the book cover, and am really close to sending it out to be edited by a professional editor.  So yea!  Now the looming next steps are the unknowns about how to publish, create a launch, etc.  I am not versed in the publishing world at all, and so this is probably where my biggest inner alignment has to find some balance...

The good news is that as I do the necessary inner work to find my breath and ease while finding my way in the project, I am sure I will  be ready to pop my head back out of the covers and commence with my New Year's goals.  Even writing it out to my dear newsletter/blog friends is a good start!


So if you are dragging your feet about your resolutions, whether they be to lose that extra five pounds you always wanted to do (remember I work at a gym, and it cracks me up how many new people I see there in the first week of January.  Wonder if they will still be there on February 1?)
I wish you deep cleansing breaths and time to process whatever your big New Year's wishes are for yourself.  I am here cheering you on all the way! And if you ARE at the gym, good for you!  Keep it up with balance and discipline and I know you will be feeling better, slimmer and more svelt.  Isn't that a great word, svelt?  Let's all be svelt this year!

In these lazy, hazy days of summer, do you have some best practices that you do to  maintain your free movement and also enhance your knowledge of the body/mind connection so that you are creating positive changes in your freedom of movement, breath and balance?
I don't know about your summer, but things do slow down a bit for me in august,  and I have more time to reflect and to make choices about how I want to spend my day.

So often when I work with clients, I hear from them that they can't seem to slow down and take time to take care of themselves.  One of the fundamental teachings of the Alexander Technique is to become aware and conscious of our movement choices and the BEST way to become more aware is to get conscious and notice the way we are moving.  

Usually we don't choose; we just move.  And usually mindlessly! What happens when you make it a "practice" TO SLOW DOWN and notice how you are doing the movement activity?  It feels GOOD!  

It is facinating to me that during the actual Alexander Technique lesson we slow down so much, that we can experience a totally different movement progression, say in walking or reaching up for a teacup on a high shelf.  By practicing the activity with more awareness all kinds of things start revealing themsleves...we notice that our shoulders have become tense, our necks get tight, our breathing becomes restricted...why when we do the activity with awareness and the "fingertips leading the arm" does the activity become easier while actually be successful in continuing to breathe?

This is the way the person is designed to move, with awareness and co-ordination, and directing ourselves into free movement.

We say in the Alexander Technique that awareness is the first step. If you aren't aware of your movment choice, you are not choosing, but instead you are letting your habits take over.

Of course some habits are fine; we shouldn't have to think about walking every time we have to go somewhere!  But paying attention to the amount of unnecessary tension in our walking, and then having a process in which to reduce that tension, well that's what feels so different and so good!

Whenever I start with a new student, I give them the "doorknob" exercise" to do at home.  That is, to pause just as they are about to open a door, and notice the excess tension in their necks and shoulders, and see if they can reduce the tension before opening the door.

this exercise works so well, because just like the many times we sit and stand in a day, we are often opeing doors in a day.  Each time we do it, we can employ the practice of pausing, directing ourselves into length and width, and freeing our breath!  Like a refreshing summer rain...

have a lovely August, friends and students!  Hopefully I will see you really soon, butr meanwhile, enjoy a simple "best practice" and see if it makes your day go a little better!

Sincerely,

Diane

Diane L. Sussman is a Nationally Certified Teacher of the Alexander Technique who has been serving clients for more than 25 years.  She is an expert in movement co-ordination, and brings her enthusiasm for wellness, free movement and poise into the lives of her students throughout the country.

Also an Energy Healer and Body Transformation Coach, Diane would be happy to answer questions you may have about next steps for your future embodiment of health and well being!  (215) 563-1271